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Stiletto Update: “Pink Is The Love You Discover”

Hey Curvy Chicks!

Lately I feel like I must be reverting back to my 16 year old self. I don’t know if its a bit of PTSD from my Dad’s passing in 2002 and coming up on the 10 year anniversary or if its just the first time in my adult life that I have had no one to really answer to but myself. Needless to say I have certainly been on a road to a deeper understanding of my own personal style, my self expression in my appearance and the kind of life I want and plan to have asthetically from here on out. For the last 10 years I have been talking about dying my hair pink and I finally did it (hence the 16 year old reverting)! Yesterday I went into see my friend and stylist Jami Jackson at Jacko’s Chop Shop and amped up my look to something I have always wanted and I feel great!

Being sick for so many weeks (things are finally feeling normal in my body again) gave me a lot of time for self reflection and to think about what I want to do, who I want to be and all that jazzy stuff. I am now a lot more certain about myself, accepting the changes I need to implement and am excited to get back to hitting the ground running and doing ME to the best of my ability.

Anyways aside from the hair change, I am really looking forward to amping things up around here and doing things with a lot more ease (i know sounds like an oxymoron but whatever) . I tend to think WAY WAY WAY too much about everything and sometimes get so in my head that I end up just going through the motions instead of being myself and I am so over it! From here on out I’m going to post when I want to post and talk about whatever I’m feeling like. There will still be outfits but there is going to be a lot more of my life aside from the clothes shared here. Honestly I’m really excited about sharing all of my interests, exploring myself more and being the best REAL version of myself I can be! I have a few new projects coming up that I am super excited about and will share as soon as I am able and  it just feels FANTASTIC to have some fire back in my spirit!

Here’s to having a great weekend and kicking some booty next week!

xoxo

Stiletto

 

Guide To Handling Holiday Stress!

Hey Loves!

The Holidays can be an absolutely crazy time of year, with all the shopping, cooking, eating, preparations and ofcourse all of the family interaction. Dealing with your fair share of Holiday Stress is completely normal right?  For most of us it seems as if it should be, but an important part of making it through the holidays with all of your sanity intact and without a  chip on your shoulder is managing your holiday stress and taking care of yourself!  As I have mentioned before this fall semester I have been taking a class on Stress Managment and last week my teacher gave us a handout and went over ways to manage holiday stress and I wanted to share it with you!

Do What You Can!

Too Much Food. Too Much To Do. Too Much Everything.

Tisn’t the season of excess. Atleast it shouldn’t be. Having too much to on you plate (literally and figuratively) will overwhelm. Be aware of time constraints on yourself and your schedule. Don’t over-book yourself or stretch yourself too thin.

Set a Budget!

Too little time, too little money, too little patience!

Tis the season of giving… there is no greater gift than giving yourself, your time and effort. Be reasonable. With yourself and others…and know that there is always more we could do…no matter what. So stop at what is reasonable for you! (PS: Sales are a great thing, check out Stiletto’s Holiday Sale Guide!)

Make A List!

Being prepared can help!

After making your list let go and trust the priorities will get finished. Plan ahead and order online if you can! Don’t overload your list. 3-5 errands is A LOT for one day!

Expect Things To NOT Go Smoothly!

Practice being in the moment.

Expect to fail, expect to laugh, expect change. Don’t try to squeeze that one more thing in UNLESS you have time for it NOT to go smoothly! Also be NICE! You don’t want to feel bad later for behaving poorly~ that’s just adding stress on top of stress!

Eat Well!

Eat, drink and be merry…and tomorrow feel like I wanna die????

Your body needs help! Make good food choices by eating intuitively and drink choices. One day of overdoing it won’t likely kill you…but day after day and you may wish it had. Have a little of everything instead of a lot. Small intuitive portions (LISTEN TO YOUR BODY AND YOUR CRAVINGS), and a long walk can do a body good!

Count Your Blessings/Show Gratitude!

All is calm….

What’s the good news? What has this year given you? What have you learned if it’s been difficult. Focus on the positive in your Holiday situations and lead with an easy going heart!

Assess Your Traditions!

Traditions should feed you, not drain you.

Do you enjoy what the tradition is? If the answer is no, can you change it, or scrap it?

Sit With The Saddness!

It’s part of the holidays.

We all experience sadness in the holidays because we remember those who are not with us. If we try to avoid the sadness we will either run around like chickens with their heads cut off, spend too much, drink too much, or eat too much. If we sit and acknowledge our sadness as a normal part of ourselves the holidays will be far less stressful and we will be able to return to joy.

Find Time For Stress Managment!

A little bit goes a long way.

Just 10 minutes in the car, resting your eyes, 5 minutes of deep breathing, an evening in jammies in the couch, a hot bath, music and stretching or whatever your productive coping method of choice can give your body the energy that it needs to handle all the business! It also gives your brain a chance to refocus. Practice affirmations of patience, goodness and tolerance this Holiday season, it can go a long way for all the people you come across.

Remember To Laugh!

People are pretty funny if you watch them.

If you are going to be forced into being arond a lot of folks, find something to laugh about. Be an observer. It’s pretty amusing when you step back and let em go!

When All Else Fails…

Get out of yourself.

Often being of service to others and searching for ways that we be give back helps to keep it all in perspective. Let that driver cut you off and drive slowly. Let others in front of you in the grocery store. Even these simple things can help. Looking for others in need can often put our needs into perspective.

How do you manage your holiday stress? What do you have planned this holiday season and how will you take care of yourself?

xoxo

Stiletto

 

A New Perspective & A Blog Challenge

Life has been hard. Honestly the last few months have been some of the hardest transitions for me in my life with one thing after another falling apart and challenging me, and I really haven’t lived up to any of the challenges. I have been depressed, which I really hate admitting, uninspiried, antisocial and pretty much just a mess. But i’m working on it, i’m trying to feel better and trying to pull my life back together and thats really all I can do at this point. If you are still with me, thanks for sticking it out and I hope things will improve because I feel like they will.

I’ve gained some perspective while taking my time out and hiding from life and I think I know where I want things to go and how to make my life happen and change the way I need it to. One of the first steps for me in gaining back myself though and sharing that self with the rest of the world is accepting that I am not necessarily the same person I was two years ago, let alone even two months ago. In hope of getting to know myself a bit better again and to ofcourse let you get to know me again I decided to give myself a bit of a kick in the ass and do a blog challenge for the next 30 days. I will still be posting about shopping and showing some outfits since i’ve finally started wearing real clothes again but hopefully you guys will enjoy some more personal posts too! So here we go!

30 Day Blogger Challenge/Day 1

A Recent Photo Of You & 15 Interesting Facts About Yourself

This photo was taken at the hospital on September 10th. My best friend had given birth to this beautiful baby girl on September 9th and I can already admit I am completely in love with her and am a very proud “Auntie”! This little lady is going to be spoiled rotten and fabulous :)

15 Interesting Facts About Me

1. While most people think I am an only child I have a Big Brother who is a good 25 years older than me. We have the same Dad but different Moms and he is in reality only a few years younger than my Mom.  My brother is a Rock Star, literally a musician,, and one of  the kindest people I know.

2. I think cantalope is the most disgusting food in the world. Really, the thought of it makes me want to puke.

3. Contrary popular belief that I have a big mouth, I actually have a pretty small one. I also have itty bitty teeth and the space is so small I use a child size toothbrush, my current one has unicorns on it. 

4. When I was little my Dad collected clown artwork and had so much of it an entire room of our house was dedicated to it. I slept in that room once while mine was being painted and I’ve been terrified of clowns ever since.

5. The first piece of clothing I can remember picking out myself and wearing till it feel apart was a hot pink 90210 Sweatshirt. It had Dylan (Luke Perry) on the front of it and I sported a brand new perm in my hair around the time I bought it. I was only 10 then at most but I knew I was the shit. lol

6. My favorite color is Orange (and no it has nothing to do with Boise State University or Football) I just really love orange, maybe because of my orange hair.

7. When I was 16/17 I went though a bit of a “punk rock” phase and wanted to dye my hair black with hot pink streaks. I bought all the dye but my Mom put her foot down. Strangely I’ve found myself strongly considering going pink now at this point in my life.

8. The first CD’s I remember owning were Salt N Pepa “Very Necessary” and Alanis Morrisette “Jagged Little Pill”. These musical influences probably explain alot of my angry girl tendencies and filthy mouth. I still own and listen to both of these albums.

9. I started dating when I was 12 and the longest I have ever been single since then was for 6 months before my senior year when I met my ex husband. I guess I just like being attached, whether that is a good or bad thing I’m not sure.

10. I can be a total homebody and always have been. I like things to take place on my own turf and I get anxiety when staying in other people’s homes.

11. I have never broken a bone, had a surgery, or been taking to the emergency room. The worst thing that has ever happened to me physically was when I sliced my thumb open while making a sandwhich and recieved 5 stitches at my doctors office. I live dangerously.

12. I couldn’t save money if my life depended on it. I have never been able to maintain a savings account. I work hard for the money but I love to spend it.

13. I fell completely in love with Nightrider the day I met her. If she had asked me 2 hours into our date to run away with her to Canada I would have said “Your Car or Mine?”

14. Babies, aside from the one in the photo above (she is the exception), freak me out! I get really stressed out, anxious and high strung when in the presence of anyone under the age of two. This is why I am so glad I got to become a bonus mom to 9 and 10 year olds when Nightrider and the boys moved in rather then have babies.

15. I am a complete perfectionist about everything and whenever I fall short I beat myself up to the point of tears. This is something I am working on but its a constant battle for me.

What are some interesting facts about you?

xoxo

Stiletto

What I Learned On My Summer Vaction

Its no lie, i’ve been MIA… a lot, especially as of late. Losing my job, changing my focus and having more time to work on ME and what I want has been a real eye opener and honestly a really relaxing time for me. I had been going full steam for so long I had lost a lot of myself to others expectations and I spent most of June reclaiming my life, enjoying time with my family, getting away from it all and taking advantage of the beautiful state I live in and basically just LIVING and its been incredible. I know that I can’t screw around and galavant and be irresponsible forever but this vacation I have been on over the last month (aside from all the school work) has been a blessing and now has me ready to take what I’ve learned, and what I’ve reclaimed for myself and to start my life now and make it everything I want it to be! Thanks for bearing with me while I’ve been off finding myself.

Here are some of the things I’ve learned:

1. I am not definined by how I make my money. My identity is not in a job title but in the innermost parts of my heart.

2. Taking a chill pill can really change EVERYTHING and makes me a much happier person.

3. Putting on a show may give me a rush and feed my ego but being the real me is much more rewarding.

4. Saying no once in a while isn’t the end of the world.

5. The people that really care about you will support your dreams even if it doesnt contribute to theirs.

6. Good music makes every day worth living.

7. Using sticks like ski poles while peeing in the woods will land you on your hiney.

8. True friends will say “Fuck Um” and drag you out for drinks and nachos after a bad day.  (Thanks Sabrina and Jeniese!)

9. Spending quality time with an amazing partner and 3 awesome kids can heal all wounds.

10. Sometimes you have to lose it all to figure out what you really want.

With those lessons plus probably a zillion more that I have picked up over the last 30 days I am ready to get back to business, but only the business I want, and to make my life the way I want it to be.  I think with this change not only will I continue to evolve as a person but so will this blog and my other projects I have coming up! I am ready to take on the world.

When was the last time you took some time off and revaluated your life? What have you learned so far this summer?

xoxo

Stiletto

Turning Lemons In To Lemonade

Tomorrow is my last day at work and I find myself looking more and more forward to packing up and moving on. I think a lot of people in my position would be nervous and worried especially with the state of the economy but I am feeling so great about the direction this turn of events is allowing me to go and while one door is closing I feel like so many more are opening. It’s really awesome to feel so self confident even with the uncertainty of my income and ability to make it all work. I have been thinking a lot about what I have missed out on because of the path I was on for the last 6 years and about what I will be able to do now and in the future and IT IS GOOD!

I am an optimistic person and am honestly pretty great at turning lemons into lemonade so things that I am looking forward to are easily entering my mind instead of all the worries I could be having and it has me doing what I do best, making lists and well the list I am making right now is all the things I will be doing once I complete my job this Friday!

  • Listening to music 24/7, oldies, indie rock, acoustic covers, hip hop, femme folk, top 40, EVERYTHING will be making its way to my playlist and I will be singing along and dancing my way through my new life
  • Sleeping past 6am, I still plan to be up by 8am everyday but I know that 2 hours will make a huge difference
  • Starting my day with french pressed coffee on the back porch with my love
  • Wearing what I want EVERYDAY even if its shorts and t shirts and flip flops (don’t judge me)
  • Shooting my outfits, even if they are simple, daily in fun places and at random times
  • Posting as many blogs as I want in one day and not feeling like there isnt enough time
  • Walking my golden Lucy every morning
  • Swimming laps, doing yoga twice a week, and getting back in touch with my body
  • Actually putting my laundry away instead of letting it pile up for days at a time
  • Traveling, camping, site seeing, staycationing and taking some time off for me and for my family
  • Enjoying the last summer before our oldest hits highschool and our twins hit 13, must cherish the moments
  • Taking silly photos, going on adventures, and taking life less seriously
  • Staying up late, having a social life and remembering who I am isnt defined by my career
  • Journaling, writing crap poetry, and remembering why I have always wanted to be a writer
  • Finding the person I lost when I forced myself to grow up to quickly
  • Remembering my dreams and taking the right steps to making those dreams a reality

xoxo

Stiletto

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