Today I want to talk for a minute about plus size girls wearing shorts. While there are more and more curvy chicks rocking shorts (YAY!) there are still some that don’t feel like it is a look they can pull off, and even more that don’t think fat chicks should be wearing shorts to begin with. So while some progress has been made and more plus women are taking their style into their own hands and giving a big fuck you to naysayers, others are still not quite ready or not sure how to take that journey. When I was a teenager there was a period of time that I let the fact that my pasty white thighs rubbed against each other when I would walk keep me in jeans for an entire summer, and it was absolutely miserable. Looking back on it I honestly can’t believe that I gave in to societies rules for fat chicks and that I thought that hiding my body would keep me from feeling self-conscious. Truth be told covering up in the hot hot sun just made me even more self-conscious. I had thought that no one would judge me because I was hiding my “flaws” but in reality I think I brought more attention to my tummy, ass and thighs by wearing jeans in 90 degree weather, and projecting that I was uncomfortable with my body.Looking back on it now I know that if I would have just put a smile on my face, pulled on a pair of shorts in the correct size that fit my curves, and gone off to have fun with my friends, it’s very likely that no one would have been thinking about how my body looked, but would have been thinking that I was confident, outgoing and a blast to hang out with.
Unfortunately sometimes we think we are protecting ourselves by hiding, or leaving our own selves out of all the fun in an attempt to make us less vulnerable to criticism, but really that’s a huge load of bullshit. While it may sound safe and like the easy route when it comes to dealing with the body one was dealt, in reality is just a form of self-sabotage from loving ones life, loving ones body and loving oneself. How can anyone live a happy full life when they are uncomfortable, making their choices based on the fear of how others will view their body, and not taking chances or risks (in life and in style) over something as irrelevant as size and shape. When you break it down it’s really about more than to wear or to not wear it’s about who you are and how you project yourself to the world, which in turn affects how you feel about yourself. Now I realize that clothing choices wont make or break your life and that throwing on a pair of shorts wont change your whole world but it’s certainly a step in the right direction to finding a healthy confidence and appreciation for your body. I also fully understand that shorts aren’t necessarily everyone’s cup of tea and that’s fine but this could also relate to tank tops, swimsuits, lingerie or anything that a woman doesn’t feel like she can wear because of her body.
So how does one get past this roadblock in self-love and body acceptance? In this case I think it’s just a matter of taking the plunge and diving right in. It may be scary at first but steps as small as walking around the house on a Saturday morning revealing your body to your family, beau or heck even fur babies can help you build the confidence to eventually wear those styles you have been afraid of out in public and to do so with complete confidence, pride and appreciation for your body. Sure there will always be jerks out there who will project their own self-loathing on you in an attempt to make you feel bad about yourself, but there comes a point where you have to decide to live on your own terms with your own style and the body you were given. Making that choice rather than letting the assholes of the world dictate how you should feel about your most sacred vessel can be a complete game changer, I know it was for me.
So who wears short shorts? This girl does, and if you choose to, you can too!
How do you feel about plus size girls wearing short? Will you be rocking them this Summer?
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